Showing posts with label adult. Show all posts
Showing posts with label adult. Show all posts

Thursday, April 24, 2014

7 Gifts of Read-Aloud, Or Why I'll Read (Almost) Any Book to My Kid



Ohhhkay. So I think it's time to address the elephant in the room regarding kidlit. Because while you know that I love to celebrate all the terrific books that have been published for children over the years, you and I both know there's a certain dirty little secret among parents, teachers, librarians & kidlit fans.

Are you ready for this one?

(Come in a little closer, okay. . . . )

Some kidlit stinks.

There, I said it. And I'll say it again. There are oodles and scads of fantastic titles published each year, but in among all those wonderful gems are plenty of books that just -- ugh. I find myself rolling my eyes over the endless series entries, the movie tie-ins (I'm looking at you, Disney), the stilted nonfiction, the formulaic genre books, and especially those designed to get the shock factor going (bodily functions and undergarments are the staple topics of these little gems).



Two things got me thinking along this topic today. First were the Facebook comments that erupted after Scholastic Parents shared a post called The Most Important Thing to Remember During Read-Alouds, which just so happened to feature a picture of a Junie B. Jones book. Folks went off on Junie B., and all the reasons they think she isn't right for their kids (and some think she's wrong for all kids). And then came a post by my friend Erica of the excellent blog What Do We Do All Day?. Erica recently shared her post Books My Kids Love, But I Hate on Pinterest, and received quite a backlash from some folks who insinuated that admitting she hated some of her kids' favorite titles made her a "jerk".

Well okay, it seems to me that we have a couple of problems here. First, we have the issue of whether or not books are "appropriate", which is where the Scholastic post seems to be getting caught up. Right off the bat, let me just say that I would never dream of telling another parent what's appropriate for their kid. That is totally your business, not mine - just as I won't correct your kid for eating Froot Loops or wearing their pajamas to school every day, even though I don't let Sprout do either of those.

But it's my right to do what's right in my eyes for Sprout, just as it's your right as a parent to make choices you feel are right for your kids. And that's what sticks with me about those Facebook comments. Poor Junie B. was instantly classified by some as not "good" - and yet, there are others on the same thread who testified to the power of that series to draw in their kids and keep them hooked on books. Does that make Junie B. a problem child or a heroine, in the world of kidlit?

Second, there's the pushback that Erica received for stating that she doesn't like some of the books her kids reach for. Now this is just silly. Who among us can testify with certainty that there aren't some children's books that make you want to cheerfully remove your own frontal lobe? Erica's right up-front about the fact that she reads all of them to her kids (with the exception of one series - which was blackballed after a period of too much exposure for poor Mommy!). But to me her admission that she hates these books makes me love her more -- she is human after all, despite her fantastically inventive activities, which make me want to go to her place for a play date.



I'll state right now, for the record, that the Dinosaur Cove books Sprout is currently obsessed with are so inane as to make me want to read a Harlequin novel to cleanse my palate. But we've slogged through darn near all of them, and I'm dreading Sprout's request to reread them when we're done. I've suffered through Thomas books so long they've rivalled academic papers, and countless repetitions of Goodnight Moon and that whispering bunny. I don't complain -- too much -- when I'm asked to read dinosaur tomes, and I don't balk at reading the counting board books that still come off the shelf when I least expect it.

I don't love any of these things, and it's not a stretch to say that I hate them. Frankly, I'm not really a fan of Junie B., either, if only because I so much prefer Ramona and Clementine and Pippi and Anna Hibiscus. But read them I do, and I'll read Junie B. too, when and if she makes an appearance. Because more important to me than whether or not *I* like a book, is whether or not it's doing what it needs to do for Sprout.



Here's what reading aloud with your kids does:

1. Reading aloud teaches kids to associate reading with pleasure. 
The coziness and togetherness of a shared experience like reading goes a long way. The bond you'll develop is something they'll remember long after the boring series book is forgotten.

2. Reading aloud helps us slow down. 
This activity can't be rushed - it is by nature deliberate and paced. You have to stop, turn off the screens, and be in the moment with your kid. That focus is the gift of your time, a precious thing to help your child see how important they are to you.

3. Reading aloud develops literacy skills. 
Kids learn inflection, tone, emotion. They hear how the voice goes up on a question and drops to a hush at the end of a tense scene. All of this transfers when they begin puzzling out text for themselves.

4. Reading aloud exposes kids to vocabulary. 
They learn how to use familiar words in different ways, and figure out new words from context or by asking. Kids whose parents read aloud are exposed to much more language, and therefore tend to develop a larger vocabulary as a result.

5. Reading aloud offers opportunity for discussion. 
When a character behaves in a certain way, reader and listener have a chance to stop and talk about those actions. Was that a good decision? Was that language appropriate? Why did this happen, and what might happen if a similar situation came up in real life? Reading gives us golden moments to act out scenarios before they happen.

6. Reading aloud promotes exploration. 
Children typically experience books by hearing them long before they are able to read those words themselves. As a result kids can explore interests that might be a bit of a stretch, strengthening their comprehension and encouraging inquiry. Of course books need to be within the realm of appropriateness, but pushing the boundaries of age levels is completely possible in a read-aloud.

7. Reading aloud teaches us to share the magic of story. 
As humans, we crave story; it's around us every day, in the way we interact and the background we bring to each encounter we have. When you read to a child, you open the door of story, and help them find new keys to relate to the world they live in through the lessons they've learned in imagination.

I may not always love the books Sprout chooses to bring home, checked out from the library on his newly minted library card. But grin and bear it I shall, reading cheerfully even the books I least enjoy -- because the rewards for reading these awful books together far outweigh the cost.

Monday, December 31, 2012

Best of 2012 - and a Sneak Peek at 2013!

Well kiddies, it's time to say goodbye to the year 2012, if you can believe it. I can't quite, mostly because I don't really know what I spent the past 12 months doing -- oh yeah, that's right, it was pretty much nose-in-book, fingers-on-keyboard this year (and not just for the blog, dear ones).

So I thought it would be fun to have a little look at the books especially enjoyed in 2012. Not all of these are 2012 published titles, but all are ones we read and loved this past year. The lists are in no particular order, since I can't begin to rank some of these titles that finely. To keep it interesting, I asked Hubs and Sprout to include their favorites here too -- it's not all about my opinion, you see. And let's jump in!


Top 5 Books to Read at Bedtime (Mommy's version):
1. All the World by Liz Garton Scanlon
2. A House in the Woods by Inga Moore
3. Nightsong by Ari Berk
4. Lala Salama by Patricia Maclachlan
5. What Happens on Wednesdays by Emily Jenkins



Top 5 Books to Read at Bedtime: (Daddy's version):
1. Goldlilocks and the Three Dinosaurs by Mo Willems
2. Today I Will Fly! by Mo Willems
3. Shopping with Dad by Matt Harvey
4. Circle Dogs by Kevin Henkes
5. The Gingerbread Man Loose in the School by Laura Murray



Top 5 Books to Hear at Bedtime (Sprout's version):
1. Tiny Little Fly by Michael Rosen
2. Creepy Carrots by Aaron Reynolds
3. Nighttime Ninja by Barbara DaCosta
4. Black Dog by Levi Pinfold
5. Bear Snores On by Karma Wilson



Top 5 Books About Vehicles:
1. Goodnight, Goodnight Construction Site by Tom Lichtenheld
2. Otis and the Tornado by Loren Long
3. Machines Go to Work in the City by William Low
4. A Bus Called Heaven by Bob Graham
5. I'm Fast by Kate McMullan



Top 5 Books with Rhythm:
1. Drum City by Thea Guidone
2. Squeak, Rumble, Whomp! Whomp! Whomp! by Wynton Marsalis (review coming soon!)
3. Sing-Along Song by Joann Early Macken
4. Penny and Her Song by Kevin Henkes
5. Listen to My Trumpet by Mo Willems



Top 5 Books about Friends:
1. Boy + Bot by Ame Dyckman
2. City Dog, Country Frog by Mo Willems
3. Bear in Love by Daniel Pinkwater
4. Duck, Duck, Goose by Tad Hills
5. A Sick Day for Amos McGee by Philip C. Stead



Top 5 Delicious Reads:
1. Cora Cooks Pancit by Dorina K. Lazo Gilmore
2. Minette's Feast by Susanna Reich
3. Bring Me Some Apples and I'll Make You a Pie by Robbin Gourley
4. Rah, Rah, Radishes! by April Pulley Sayre
4. Bee-Bim Bop! by Linda Sue Park



Top 5 Books to Make You Laugh:
1. It's a Tiger by David LaRochelle
2. This is Not My Hat by Jon Klassen
3. Dragons Love Tacos by Adam Rubin
4. Betty Bunny Loves Chocolate Cake by Michael Kaplan
5. Z is for Moose by Kelly Bingham

and, here are my personal lists --



Top 5 Middle Grade Reads:
1. Wonder by RJ Palacio
2. The One and Only Ivan by Katherine Applegate
3. How Lamar's Bad Prank Won a Bubba-Sized Trophy by Crystal Allen
4. Liar & Spy by Rebecca Stead
5. A Long Walk to Water by Linda Sue Park



Top 5 Teen Reads:
1. Inside Out & Back Again by Thanhha Lai
2. How to Save a Life by Sara Zarr
3. The Absolutely True Diary of a Part-time Indian by Sherman Alexie
4. Grave Mercy by Robin L. Lafevers
5. The Summer I Learned to Fly by Dana Reinhardt



Top Books I Never Blogged About (But Which are Totally Fantastic Anyway):
1. The Fault in Our Stars by John Green
2. The Diviners by Libba Bray
3. The Raven Boys by Maggie Stiefvater
4. See You at Harry's by Jo Knowles
5. The Peculiar by Stefan Bachmann
6. The Wicked and the Just by J. Anderson Coats
7. Delirium by Lauren Oliver
8. Behind the Beautiful Forevers by Katharine Boo
9. October Mourning by Leslea Newman
10. Drama by Raina Telgemeier


Top 5 Books My Husband Loved:
1. Silverfin by Charlie Higson
2. The Ruins of Gorlan by John Flanagan
3. Dead End in Norvelt by Jack Gantos
4. The Fault in Our Stars by John Green
5. Gone Girl by Gillian Flynn (he has awesome taste - I loved this one too)

Now, no fair blaming us if your TBR lists just grew by a mile, OK?

And onto the sneak peek of 2013. This is going to be a big year for me personally, professionally, and bloggily (maybe the biggest I've had since 2010 when I became a mom and started graduate school, in that order). I don't really want to talk about the first two areas of my life, but I will give you a little look-see at what's happening here on the Bookshelf:

~ The Children's Bookshelf: Coming Soon -- I am one of the new cohosts of this weekly kidlit link-up, and I'm SO EXCITED! Come here every Monday to see a host of fantastic links from all over the blogosphere, all related to children's books. It's going to be really terrific!

~ More Nonfiction Reviews: that was my goal in 2012 and it just didn't happen. In 2013, I hope to dive into the true stuff in a bigger way. Stay tuned.

~ More Middle Grade/Teen Reviews: I really fell down on this in 2012, but not for lack of reading some amazing books. This next year I want to balance out all the terrific picture books we read with Sprout with all the other goodies that make their way home in my library bag.

~ A New Look: Working now on some design changes that I hope to have in place very very soon. And of course, you'll be the first to know.

Personally, we want to thank you for reading along with us in 2012. If you've shared our little blog with others, we thank you for that as well -- and here's to 2013, a year of books, books, and even more fabulous books!!

Tuesday, December 4, 2012

Mom's Bookshelf -- Show Me a Story by Leonard S. Marcus

Now that our 30 Days of Picture Books series is over, you may have noticed it's been a bit quieter here on the Bookshelf. It's not that we've stopped reading -- far from it -- but more that I took a bit of a break over the weekend to focus on end-of-the-semester projects. I so enjoyed doing the 30 Days writing that I was tempted to keep on with one post a day until the end of the year, but sanity prevailed when I realized how much research and writing looms ahead for school. So while I might be posting a little more infrequently over the next couple of weeks, rest assured that I'm still here.

In the meantime, we have been busily working on some other projects. First are our Pinterest boards. If you haven't jumped on the Pinterest bandwagon I really commend you, but I've jumped in with both feet. I love this site for creating booklists -- so much more visual and interesting to look at than a list of linked titles! Our most recent additions include boards for Kwanzaa, Hanukkah, and Christmas, as well as a board of Kidlit for Global Citizens. It's been so much fun compiling these lists, and I encourage you to use them to build a library list or as gift ideas. And as always, we'd love to hear what your favorite holiday reads are, so we can pin those as well.

Last year I did a very popular project called 12 Days of Christmas Picture Books. Each day we shared a Christmas favorite, many of which were multicultural titles. The idea for that series came about when Sprout and I were (where else) at the library, and I overheard someone mention that "It's so hard to find Christmas stories from other countries." That of course got me to thinking about the need for diversity in holiday literature, so I began to dig deep and come up with some excellent books. We're planning to continue the tradition this year, and I've been keeping a list of candidate titles for the past 12 months. If your favorite multicultural Christmas title wasn't covered in last year's posts, please pass it on so we can work it in for this year's 12 Days.



And so, you may ask, have I been reading anything besides picture books for the past 30 days? Well as it happens, I have, and not just required reading for class either. Partway through the month I started reading Leonard S. Marcus's book Show Me A Story: Why Picture Books Matter, which is a title that's been on my TBR list since it came out in the spring. Folks, if you love kidlit, you HAVE to track this book down (if it's not in your library, suggest it as a purchase: your local librarians will love it too!). Sprout's a little miffed every time he picks it up because he thinks it's written by Mo Willems (reference the cover art) and then he says, quite disappointed, "This is just a grown-up book."

Marcus is well-known in kidlit circles as a researcher and writer, and he's penned some incredible books about the creation of children's books. In Show Me A Story, Marcus compiles his interviews with more than 20 of the world's best-loved children's illustrators. Many of our favorites are here: Ashley Bryan, Kevin Henkes, Jerry Pinkney, Robert McCloskey, Yumi Heo, and others too. After reading through so many picture books in a month, it was especially fun to read these revealing interviews about the art and craft of creating books for children. This is the kind of book you dip into from time to time, for inspiration or to connect with a favorite creator. I'm not an especially creative person myself, but I'm fascinated by the creative process, so this kind of voyeuristic read is right up my alley (really need to make sure Santa knows that!).

One of the best quotes I came across (and there are tons), is one from Kevin Henkes: "I love having something for the adult who is reading to the child. But I try to keep in mind at all times that the book is for the child. I don't want any of that extra layer to interfere with the main objective, which is to make an entertaining book for a kid." Beautifully said, Mr. Henkes! And I dare say it's why we love to read his books as well.

Show Me a Story by Leonard S. Marcus, published by Candlewick Press
Adult
Source: Library
Sample: From the Foreward by David Wiesner "And nowhere is visual humor explored more fully than in the picture book. Possibly only Charlie Chaplin or Buster Keaton could equally run the gamut from gentle kidding to sophisticated wit to pie-in-the-face slapstick to anarchic postmodernism."
Recommended

Sunday, February 19, 2012

Mom's Bookshelf - How Eskimos Keep Their Babies Warm by Mei-Ling Hopgood

When it comes to parenting notions, most of us don't stray too far outside the realm of what we know to be true. We might do what our parents did, or actively try not to do what they did. We consult parenting books that receive high marks, check out websites, seek out the advice of other moms and dads for particularly thorny issues. But most of us don't look much beyond our cultural comfort zone when considering how to discipline our kiddos or what time we should be putting them to bed.

And then there's Mei-Ling Hopgood.

Hopgood and her husband were thrilled to add daughter Sofia to their family, while living abroad in Argentina. Pretty much everything the couple knew about kids they had learned through their own cornfed American upbringings. Essential gear? Strollers and pull-ups. Approved play? Mommy and me. Sleeping arrangements? Bedtime and crib for one.

But then Hopgood started noticing how Argentine parents treated bedtime - more of a suggestion than anything, with young kids present in restaurants and out and about far later than American children generally are. Digging deeper, Hopgood found the roots of this practice in the culture of her adopted homeland. What she found was less about sleep habits and more about what the Argentine approach to bedtime says about their attitude toward children as a whole. And far from negligent parenting (which is, let's be honest, what most of us might think here if we saw kids eating dinner at 10 p.m.), in Argentina it's considered an important part of family togetherness.



This led Mei-Ling Hopgood to begin exploring parenting practices around the globe, compiling her findings in the fascinating book How Eskimos Keep Their Babies Warm: And Other Adventures in Parenting. Hopgood's research is incredibly insightful, as she digs into why Mayan children participate (happily!) in household chores and how French moms and dads get their children (willingly!) eating veggies. In each case that Hopgood examines, we learn a little something about the particular cultural norms that are transmitted from parent to child, and how those norms support the larger values and beliefs of that cultural system.

As an undergrad sociology/anthropology major, this stuff is right up my alley, and it really made me think about why we hold the beliefs we do about proper nutrition, playtime, and yes, even bedtime. Much of what we do is in all honesty pretty arbitrary, when it all comes down to it. And in fact it could just be that the Japanese are on to something when they let kids work out their own petty squabbles with -- shock of shocks! -- little or no adult intervention. Can you imagine??!

Though I'm not giving up our stroller just yet, I'll admit that Hopgood makes some pretty intriguing points here. And if nothing else, I'll feel a lot less guilty next time we stay up a little past bedtime.

Monday, July 25, 2011

Mom's Bookshelf - The Reading Promise by Alice Ozma

As a parent, I stand pretty firmly on the notion that one of the greatest gifts I can give Sprout is a love of reading. Lots of reasons for that -- books open your mind to new worlds, give you possibilities you would never otherwise have dreamed of, allow endless opportunities for exploration, hone and refine literacy skills that will serve you in great stead, and provide huge amounts of enjoyment on a daily basis. What could be better? And I'm well aware that the best way to spark that love is through example, by filling our house with books and reading as much as we can, both individually and as a family.

I'd like to say that we've read to Sprout every day since he's been a part of our home. The percentage of days we have read to him certainly outweighs those we haven't. But I can't guarantee that we haven't missed a night here or there -- life goes awry sometimes, even with the best laid plans.

So that's why the story of Alice Ozma and her father Jim is particularly awe-inspiring to me. When Alice Ozma was nine years old, she and her elementary school librarian dad made a pact to read together for 100 nights in a row. Big commitment, but they made it. And then that 100 become 1000, and the 1000 turned into "The Streak", 3218 consecutive nights that Jim read aloud to Alice. From fourth grade until the night before she started college.

Impressed? Me too.

Alice Ozma writes about The Streak in her new book The Reading Promise: My Father and the Books We Shared. But the title is a bit misleading. Yes, Alice talks a bit about some of the books they read together, but the bulk of the book is about Alice's relationship with her dad, and the way that relationship influenced the rest of her life and the choices she made. From the opening anecdote, where Alice and Jim are reading together on a train and someone asks them why (who would do that, BTW? Wouldn't you just silently applaud??), it's pretty clear that the bond between this father and daughter runs amazingly deep. Though Alice's mother makes some brief appearances, her dad appears to have been the center point around which Alice's life turned. And the reading seems to have been the bond that kept the two connected, even through the aftermath of parental divorce and the tumult of the teenage years.

Parts of this memoir made me laugh right out loud: Jim's stubborn insistence on reading despite a wicked bout of laryngitis ("you are like some sort of voiceless alien" Alice tells him); Alice's sales pitches to drum up business for her dad's book fair ("Books are collectors' items, especially if you collect books"); Jim's efforts to eradicate Alice's irrational yet persistent fear that her room is haunted by the ghost of JFK ("Would I be talking to you so calmly if the body of an ex-president was lying on your bottom bunk?"). But other parts are incredibly moving, such as Alice's sister leaving home and the end of The Streak, which, though impossibly sad, is, of course, inevitable. At the end I was compelled to go back and read Jim's introduction, feeling, now that I knew their story, a thousand times more moved by a father's words.

Not many parents still read to their nine-year-olds, although if you asked them I'm pretty certain that most nine-year-olds would secretly love to be read to. But Jim Brozina did, and he kept reading long past the point where everyone else would have given up. And that, as they say, made all the difference.

If you already read to your kiddo, as we do, you probably don't need any encouragement to keep on doing so. But maybe you'd like a glimpse into the future, to see what could be, the outcome of the bond forged by sharing books together. Here's one such glimpse, and it couldn't be better.

The Reading Promise by Alice Ozma, published by Hachette
Adult
Source: Library
Sample quote: "We were already good at routines, but The Streak was anything but. Every night was different because every story was different. Even when a book started to drag, as some did late in the second half, there was still the thrill of getting closer to our goal to make things a little more interesting. But as my father told him, and as anyone who reads regularly might agree, the only thing that has to be similar from night to night is the act of turning pages."
Highly recommended